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#30 - The Things We Never Say to Our Kids - The WHY Matters Podcast

WorldTowning Episode 30

In this episode of The WHY Matters podcast, we dive into the language we use with our children by exploring how common phrases, often passed down through generations, can unintentionally shape their self-esteem, emotional intelligence, and sense of identity. Drawing from a decade of parenting and full-time travel, we share personal stories, research-backed insights, and practical alternatives to foster a healthier, more supportive family dynamic.


From gendered labels like "princess" to well-meaning but harmful comments like "You’re just like your mother," we break down why these words stick—and how to replace them with empowering language. Plus, we tackle financial phrasing ("We can’t afford that"), emotional validation ("I’m disappointed in you"), and the power of letting kids trust their own instincts.


@203:51 The Power of Language – How words shape a child’s inner voice.

@13:52 Gender Stereotypes – Why "princess" and "boys don’t cry" need to go.

@18:16 Appearance Comments – The harm in "You’ve gained weight" and "Smile for the camera."

@23:32 Emotional Intelligence – Alternatives to "I’m disappointed in you."

@31:03 Financial Phrases – Reframing "We can’t afford that" to empower choice.

@32:13 Generational Patterns – Breaking cycles of shame ("Because I said so").

@37:48 Practical Alternatives – Phrases like "You’re enough" and "Trust yourself."

@43:25 Family Challenge – Listen to this episode with your kids and discuss!

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